• Julia Brodska

The Ultimate Guide to Nurturing Your Relationships

By Rhonda Armbrust

RhondaArmbrust.com


Healthy relationships are the foundation for healthy people. We are hard-wired for connection, not just family and friends, but all relationships. The Greek philosopher Aristotle stated that humans are social animals. People need each other for their basic survival but also for their psychological well-being.


However, finding and keeping relationships is something we often struggle with. For example, when you fall in love, the passion caused by the release of feel-good brain chemicals tends to recede in a few years. After that, true love emerges only if the relationship continues to grow. Disappointments, traumas, and abuse can lead to trust issues that cause people to distance themselves from others. And about 12% of adults experience a social anxiety disorder at some point in their lives. Social Anxiety


But you can learn to build rewarding relationships with family and friends and enjoy life more as a social animal. Below are ways to help you find and strengthen healthy connections:


  • Create common goals with others

  • Share adventures

  • Dive deep into personal questions

  • Share hardships

  • Do something nice

  • Use physical touch

  • Be warm and friendly

  • Keep in contact

  • Listen without judgment

  • Focus on what you have in common

  • Be open and honest

  • Spend time together

  • Give compliments when appropriate and authentic

  • Do favors and ask for favors

  • Show that you care

  • Be slow to anger and be tolerant

  • Make your conversations both light and heavy

  • Be yourself

  • Show interest in their story

  • Don’t just talk about yourself

  • Support people when they need it

  • Ask people about what is happening in their lives

  • Use humor

  • Don’t participate in triggering conversations

  • Spread positivity

  • Remember that body language makes a big impact



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