Discover Your Worth by Applying the 7 “Areas of Life”

Updated: May 1, 2021

What is Self-worth?


It is the essence of an individual's subjective evaluation of their own value. In other words, it's your beliefs about yourself and it manifests in emotional states, such as triumph, despair, pride, and shame.


Self-worth involves your perception of your appearance—whether you measure that by the number on the scale, the size of your clothing, or the kind of attention you receive.



Other aspects of your life that might affect your image of yourself are:

  • Net worth—this can mean income, material possessions, financial assets, or all of the above.

  • Who you know/your social circle—some people judge their own value and the value of others by their status and what influential people they know.

  • What you do/your career—we often judge ourselves by what we do.

  • What you achieve. Your achievements may influence your self-worth, such as success in business, scores on the SAT, or placement in a marathon or other athletic challenge (Morin, 2017).

Things That Shouldn’t Determine Your Self-worth

Your to-do list: Achieving goals is great, and it feels wonderful to cross off things on your to-do list, but it doesn’t have a direct relationship with your worth as a human.

  • Your social media following: It also doesn’t matter how many people think you are worthy of a follow or a retweet. It can be enlightening and healthy to consider the perspectives of others, but their opinions have no actual impact on our innate value.

  • Your social media following: It also doesn’t matter how many people think you are worthy of a follow or a retweet. It can be enlightening and healthy to consider the perspectives of others, but their opinions have no actual impact on our innate value.

  • Your age: You aren’t too young or too old for anything. Your age is simply a number that does not factor into your value as a human being.

  • Other people: As noted above, it doesn’t matter what other people think or what other people have done or accomplished. Your personal satisfaction and fulfillment are much more important than what others are thinking, saying, or doing.

  • Your grades: We all have different strengths and weaknesses, and some of us are simply not cut out for certain subjects. This has no bearing on our value as a person.

  • The number of friends you have: Your value as a human has absolutely nothing to do with how many friends or connections you have. The quality of your relationships is what’s important.

  • Your relationship status: Whether flying solo, casually dating, or in a committed relationship, your value is exactly the same—your relationship status doesn’t alter your worth.

  • The money (or lack thereof) in the bank: If you have enough money to survive (which can, in fact, be $0), then you have already achieved the maximum amount of “worth” you can get from money (hint: it’s 0!).

  • Your likes: It doesn’t matter if you have “good taste” or not, if your friends and acquaintances think you’re sophisticated, or if you have an eye for the finer things. Your worth is the same either way.

  • Anything or anyone but yourself: Here we get to the heart of the matter—you are the only one who determines your self-worth. Even if you don’t believe you are worthy and valuable, guess what—you are still worthy and valuable!


What Are the 7 Areas of Life?

Physical

If your self-worth and weight are shackled to each other (like you might be shackled to your scale), release yourself from these bonds. Even if you don’t feel fabulous about your body, you can recognize your attributes and accomplishments.

What do you love most about your character, personality, and principles? Are you generous, smart, witty, sweet, thoughtful? Are you a friend that everyone can count on? Do you volunteer? What do you like about yourself?

Create a daily praise list. Write down five things you’ve done each day that you can give yourself credit for. Then think about how these actions relate to the type of person you are.

Relational


This is one of my favorite crucial areas of life because knowing your self-worth is a very important part of relationships. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that self-love is the key to finding true love.

I wholeheartedly believe that sharing the joys and wonders of life with another being who lights up your world is absolutely priceless. There’s nothing like it. It’s something every human being deserves to experience.

It’s hard to be in a healthy relationship if it is based on a need you want someone else to fulfill.

Being needy, insecure, and trying to gain approval and a sense of self-worth from a partner puts an enormous amount of pressure on them, and it’s a major turnoff. It’s an unachievab